Touching words of a lonely soul: “Empty, lonely, sad, depressed, forgotten, useless, feeling worthless, unimportant, and unloved; the worst feelings in the world, but they are the way how I feel every day”

Whenever you are feeling worthless, remember, that you were once the quickest sperm cell.

1. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. Steve jobs

Why do we seek approval and validation from others? When do we start the habit of seeking approval from others? Tell me when do kids feel most insecure about themselves?

When we send the kids to middle schools or High Schools. When they start comparing themselves to the other kids, they feel a lack of knowledge, lack of resources, and then they realize that there is nothing special about their own life. This is the time when they start feeling that being socially accepted and having a good social stand is everything there is to life.

Being the center of attraction and creating a good social impact becomes their topmost priority.

But the parents should make their children understand that you don’t have to be special to the outside world, you don’t have to impress the people you don’t know and the ones you are never going to meet. Teach them to never show off and never spend lavishly to impress others because they will be having a family to feed, later.

All you need to realize in life is that you don’t need the approval to feel special. Remember, you are already fulfilling your purpose in life.

The location where you are placed, the work you do, the partner you have, and the services you are providing, all of them were specially designed for you and you are living them perfectly. That’s all you have to do i.e. Accept everything and expect nothing” if you want to live a peaceful life.

Therefore, understand your environment and accept your blessings with complete gratitude, then you will find true satisfaction and peace. You will start feeling confident in the work you do and live a life worthwhile.

It’s your own life. You are the creator of your own destiny. Make a decision and then make your life blissful in your own way.

If watching Netflix makes you feel good, do it. If cooking gives you satisfaction, start doing it. If reading books or painting or creating nice videos give you a sense of purpose, totally focus on it.

If you have not achieved anything in life don’t feel bad because you are still living and surviving “till date”. Surviving and maintaining a healthy body to date, in itself, is a tedious task. So, you deserve a good appreciation for it.

If you want to go for a Trek, it’s your life you can do that. Do anything that makes you happy if you decide to read a book or play the guitar, it’s your own life and you can do that with your own esteemed permission.

Moreover, you don’t have to impress anyone else in order to feel happy. You don’t need other people watching your performance while you are playing music. Just learn to be alone, Learn to live in solitude, and learn to enjoy yourself because “loving oneself is the beginning of a Lifelong Romance”

What is the difference between the feelings of worthlessness and actual worthlessness? How do you fight the feeling of worthlessness?

The feelings of worthlessness can come from your own actions and behaviors. They can come from someone who is hurting you just because you did not do what they wanted.

You cannot be hundred percent sure that the other person is perfect in every aspect and is mentally fit. You can’t even know that the person you are trying to impress could be having a:

#  Physical defect, or

#  A cranky head or

#  A defective brain chemistry or

#  Irritated due to lack of sleep and physical exercise and

#  He may be a narcissist who is a control freak.

So, take time to think that why the heck are you wasting your precious time and energy on making that defective person happy?

You start feeling bad the moment you start comparing yourselves to others. You start comparing our life with someone’s success. After that you will start complaining or something you don’t have and slowly your life will become miserable.

Thereafter, for everything you don’t have, you will start criticizing your own life, your family, your friend circle, anything and everything you live by.

So when struggling for success, remember:

2. Life is a blessing, live it, love it, and keep it that way.

“Feeling worthless is an understatement”

“Never compare your chapter one with someone else’s success”

You start blaming all the blessings in life and eventually they become zero.  And slowly things will start becoming worse.

The conclusion: never compare yourself to anyone because you are born unique and you can’t take someone else’s place.

No one else can take your place, so stop complaining about something you don’t have and some other people do.

For example;  Social media is on-trend. People love to watch the pictures of their friends and family and colleagues. The beautiful pictures on social media will leave you with many mixed emotions of love, jealousy, hate, rage, anger and the list goes on.  Suddenly you will start feeling bad about everything good happening to them after seeing their happy faces. Then you start comparing, complaining, and criticizing your own loving family for not providing the things you don’t “need to have”. Get it? Now can you comment on the outcomes of social media in your lives?

Envy will take control of your mind and soon you will start hurting your own brain by overthinking every possibility of them enjoying the best time of their life in those pictures, which are again fake.

You will start eating less and worrying more. This is a perfect recipe for depression and this is the exact scenario happening in the world, everywhere.

Everyone is infected with the social media craze and no one has actually found a way to get over it. No one can stop it. It is like a nuclear weapon, having a chain reaction of obsession with information.

Be it a child or a teenager or a married couple or old age senior citizens, they all have learned to keep themselves busy with the catchy videos and mesmerizing pictures on the social media.

There is one important learning:

Therefore, understand that this huge amount of information will fill the cup of knowledge to the fullest and one day the mind will reach its saturation level of thinking.

When and if you will know everything easily, life becomes bland, and living will become distressing.

People don’t understand that if they consume such a huge amount of knowledge, such a large amount of information they will become saturated one day, and then the suicide rates will suddenly and definitely increase.

Because people will then know that the end of everything is to be happy and satisfied in life. And with their depressing lifestyle, they will understand that

“ the real misery is caused by living, whereas death gives a blissful silence”

3. Wherever focus goes, the energy flows, and where energy flows, that thing grows.

It is a very famous “focus quote” by Tony Robbins. It means that we have the power to give life to whatever we focus on.

Always focus on the possibilities for success and not on the potential for failure. – Unknown.

Whatever we decide to focus on, that thing grows and intensifies. If we spend more time thinking about the failures and all kinds of negative outcomes for our solution, there is a maximum probability of failure. And if we direct our focus on the best possible positive outcomes, there is a good chance to succeed in our desire.

This is how the universe works.  Our focus is directly linked to the law of attraction and the manifestation of our desire.  And we always get whatever we desire.

In everyday life, a person will think of all the 99 different bad outcomes of a situation and he will never spend even the smallest of the energy to thinking about that single positive solution.

“You get what you focus on, so always focus on what you want”

We all know “Feeling is everything” and whatever you focus on, you will feel it deeply.

Moreover, sometimes you will focus on the worst possible outcome, you will get scared of it and then . Trying to evade your fear, you will think about it more and more which will end up in an obsession. “The obsession of fear”

First of all you have to take control of your mind, you have  to deliberately control your mind to become aware of your thought pattern.

>> Take charge of your mind,

>> Control your thoughts,

>> Observe your emotions,

>> Understand your thought patterns i.e. How you feel in certain situations.

> Correct yourself with positive thoughts whenever you are feeling low.

Why do I feel stressed and worthless all the time.? read here!

4. Never fear how to take the right decision. Follow your heart, trust your intuition and always make the right choice for yourself.

“Intuition is the whisper of the soul” – Jiddu Krishnamurthi.

Intuition, in reality, is a psychological process where the mind uses past experiences of life to make a decision.

Intuition occurs outside our conscious awareness and here the decision is very quick.

Researches suggest that you should never make a decision whenever you are in any emotional state. Whenever you are feeling sad for some reason or experiencing fear or rage, at that time you should never take any decision. The same is advisable during happiness, if that rings a bell.

It’s evident that you will take many wrong decisions during different emotional states.  The mind will take a completely logical decision when in a state of calm.

“Follow your instincts, that’s where true wisdom manifests itself” – Oprah Winfrey

5. Always be kind to yourself and love yourself unconditionally.

“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” R. kaur

Start with the smallest of perks for yourself.

# Give yourself a refreshing cold shower every day

# Feed your body with the best nutritious edibles.

# Take time to understand yourself and know what’s good for your body and what information best suits your mind.

# You have the freedom of choice, so always choose the best for you.

# Pamper yourself with a relaxing massage frequently.

“Love yourself as much as you want to be loved”

Qn: I feel lonely, hopeless, worthless, unwanted, depressed, and not needed to anyone. I told some close people about this, but it’s difficult to find their time and attention. People don’t have time to spend with me, or talk to me. They don’t enjoy my company?

 After reading your question I noticed that you expect others to appreciate you. You want others to complete you, praise your life, entertain you, make you happy and you want others to be there for you whenever you want. Furthermore, you need them to:

>> Solve your problems,

>> Help you overlook your shortcomings and

>> Always appreciate you like you are a piece of chocolate to them.

>> You want to feel entitled all the time.

But, you have to face the bitter truth and understand the reality just to realize that the world doesn’t owe you anything.

> Never ever consider yourself entitled because “a supreme position the World Is Not obligated, you have to earn it”

> Carve your way through difficult times.

> Know, that your life is your own responsibility.

Finally, understand that the world will love you and they will follow you till they need you.  Once the work is done, your existence will mean nothing to them.

>>Take charge of your life.

>. Take care of your health.

> Go outside for walk

> Complete an hour of rigorous exercise,

> Sweat out your toxins and remember:

“the more you sweat, the more you Shine”

$ Keep yourself busy and this thing will pass.

$ You will start feeling better about your life.

$ Remember to eat healthily and get plenty of sleep.

$ Stop cursing yourself.

$ Stop beating yourself up.

Anything that is happening in our lives, is the result of the choice that we had made and that we were supposed to make.

$ What we have right now is exactly what we wanted and what we desired for, in our life. – Think deep.

“Living a worthy life is a dream of millions”

If you feel unworthy, you can fall into a terrifying and life-sucking abyss.

“Not everyone is worthy of your presence, so, protect your life and protect your essence”

Decide to live as a warrior. A warrior accepts the challenges of life in true humility.

A Warrior once told me the most important thing every man should know is what he would die for.

6. If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at, will change. Wayne dyer

Why do I feel like I can’t do anything right? I never feel genuinely happy anymore. Mentally, I’m at a breaking point. What should I do?

In this situation, it sounds like you are made to feel shame as a young child. I feel sad about it because it is very unfortunate; no one has to live this way.

The fear and trauma of shame can last for a lifetime, even the parents don’t think twice before using shame to manipulate their children. Not knowing that they are causing irreparable harm to their kids and this can ruin their whole life.

Shame is a very nasty emotion. It is a very terrible emotion, it’s only because of shame, you are second-guessing yourself all the time and every time.

You are always in a confused state of mind.

Shame is the reason why you are not able to take a decision in life and feel uncertain about everything.

Many people, they ask me about the difference between Shame and Guilt.

Let me tell you that there is a huge difference between them. We all feel guilty when we have done something wrong or when we have been caught out doing something wrong. At that point we experience guilt. But guilt is not permanent, it fades away with time.

Whereas, shame could be permanent because the after-effects of shame are present in life “all the time”. It is not because that person may have done something wrong, but because they were made to feel ashamed of their very existence.

Obsessive anxiety can take over the body and could elevate to such a level that it may become almost difficult to breathe due to shame.

7. Everything is happening in a fraction with pinpoint perfection.

“God’s plan is bigger than your past”

There is a divine entity controlling our lives. Most people agree to it and “me too”. We call it “God” and some call it “the infinite intelligence”.

God has a plan for all of us! Isn’t it? And it’s very well said that “There is a plan in the universe that is playing itself perfectly”

This plan of God is being executed with pinpoint perfection.

Do you know at what speed the earth is revolving around the sun? It’s 30 km/sec, and it’s insane. Right? But still, we always feel the steady earth and its calm winds.

God’s plan is controlling:

# All the life forms on earth,

# The living, the non-living and the dead,

# All the infinite stars and respective galaxies,

# And simultaneously controlling infinite tasks.

Whether someone is growing healthy or dying gradually, everything is planned and it is being executed with perfection. “if it’s intended to, then it will surely happen and no one can stop it by any means”

Now, take a deep breath and revisit your past life. You will find the proof of what I said is 100% in existence.

“You are where God wants you to be at this very moment. Every experience is the part of his divine plan”

8. The pain will eventually subside and excellence will take its place.

“The pain is temporary, Quitting lasts Forever” – Lance Armstrong

When you want to achieve something, you need to get out of your comfort zone.

The comfort zone is of two types i.e. Physical and mental zone.

If you keep feeding your body with all kinds of luxuries and comforts, you might develop a habit and unstoppable craving for it all the time. Then you will find it very difficult to work and succeed in the toughest environment.

Secondly, it’s your mental comfort zone that makes or breaks you all the time. If you are not prepared mentally to strive hard in tough conditions, you will definitely give up very easily, even under very little stress.

“Every successful person has a painful story, every painful story has a successful ending. Accept the pain and get ready for success”

9. When you learn to let go of what others think about you, then finally you can have a taste of freedom.

“The secret of happiness is freedom, the secret of freedom is courage” – C.Jones

Shame is a culprit and causes a person to feel worthless. Tell me how you can be worth anything when you are ashamed to just take up the space on the planet without providing any useful services. But still, you are not worthless.

As the next person, you just weren’t fortunate enough to experience acceptance as a child.

Another way to get out of this is to just seek a good therapist nearby, so you can find someone to discuss your deep feelings in a very safe environment. People may feel worthless when they are self-sabotaging themselves, but you have to replace this feeling with self-love.

>> Start loving yourself.

>> Appreciate your uniqueness,

>> Appreciate the uniqueness you bring into this world and

>> Appreciate how special you truly are.

We all are unique and special in our own way.

>> Be kind to yourself.

>> Have soft and optimistic approach when you talk in a group.

>> Don’t judge yourself in any situation.

>> Always be supportive and loving towards your emotions.

Your emotions want to convey you a message, so give them an authentic validation with love and care.

# Work out, sweat out your worry.

# Don’t hold on to every thought man!. Learn to let go, intelligently.

# Create beautiful memories in life.

# Stop worrying about others. Stop self-sabotage.

I’m a social person, but also to I love to live in my heaven of solitude.

>> Be your own best friend.

>> You can make a wonderful and positive difference in the world.

>> You are a valuable asset remember that

“Freedom is the oxygen of the soul” M. Dayan

10. Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire. Dale Carnegie.

“Worrying= waste of time. Good and bad things will happen in life. You just have to keep living and not stress over what you can’t control”

Worry makes life miserable.

You are not worthless, you are amazing, accept the reality that comparing yourself with better others will always make you sad. So stop overthinking.

Understand one bitter fact that really no one cares for you except your parents. It is the reality and it is the bitter truth.

You can depend only on your blood relations and that to your first blood line.

No one is trustworthy and you can’t depend on anyone else in this world.

>> You have to accept your fate,

>> Learn to observe the reality,

>> Understand the universal laws and

>> Take practical decisions followed by practical actions.

Life is very short to be depressed and to think less of yourself.

Whenever you look into the mirror look as if you are a powerful lion as if you are a confident person living a life worthwhile. Read more on wikipedia here .

You are powerful, you are rich in every aspect, and you deserve love. Expose yourself to optimistic people and get a good idea of the world around you.

>> Work on your weakness and improve yourself.

>> Don’t waste your time by going with the flow, take a stand and change the course in the direction you want.

>> Change your mindset,

>> Be more disciplined,

>> Become powerful by reading books.

This is because books will increase your knowledge and

“with knowledge comes power and with power comes peace”

>> Just change the way you think and everything will change

You don’t need your friends and relatives to approve of your worth.

Become worthy in your own eyes.

God has sent you into this world because he already made you capable of it.

11. Don’t be afraid of losing something you never had.

“The truth is that you don’t know what’s gonna happen tomorrow. Life is a crazy ride and nothing is guaranteed” –Eminem

Decide to live as a warrior. A warrior accepts the challenges of life in true humility.

A Warrior once told me the most important thing every man should know is what he would die for.

Are you complicating the simple formulas of life?

Your actual worth is nothing but a bucket full of ashes.

One day your loved ones whom you consider indispensable will dispose of you and return home and start a new life without you.

# You were born; you will die.

# You need food to eradicate hunger.

# You need water to quench thirst.

# You need sleep to eradicate tiredness.

# You need love and relations to be a part of society.

# All this operates your machine; your body until it becomes useless and lifeless.

Why are you complicating this simple process of life so much?

Live your day in the best possible way. Do your best in anything you like. Deeply enjoy the best of luxuries in the universe.

Such as:

>> Your exotic food,

>> The shelter,

>> Water,

>> Sleep,

>> Love and the sense of being alive and healthy.

“Keep your life as simple as possible because that is how it is meant to be”

Let’s understand human life with a poem.

The Human Guest House

This human being is a guest house.

Every morning is a new dream,

A cup of joy, a teaspoon of sorrow,

A mixture of ups and downs,

This is all there is to life.

Even if there arrives a crowd of sorrows,

We welcome them all,

They may violently infect the house

empty all of its furniture,

And you still, treat each guest honorably.

All you can do is,

Strengthen your will,

Discipline your mind,

Protect your thoughts and

Continue your survival.

This is exactly how life is.